What I've learned from our wonderful law system so far!

Before this year and 40+ years here on earth, I never knew a whole lot about the court system. Thank goodness I only had to attend court on a couple occasions that involved a minor traffic accident when I was eighteen and another case several years ago that involved our dog biting a passerby. Which by the way, I doubt our dog bit him and he even admitted it to my daughter that the dog didn't but he was underage and his mom pushed the issue. So anyhow.....that has been it. Until now......

You never want to see your children have to go through bad things and especially when it involves the law and court having to intercede. But, that is what we are unfortunately going through in this season of life. And, I am trying to encourage my children to stand up for themselves and not accept that from someone that wants to wrong them. 

As a youngster I faced bullying, being made fun of, and disrespect just like most of us in life have faced. But I was that quiet and shy girl who let it happen and not say anything to anyone. I'm so glad that as an adult, I came out of that shell and decided to take up for myself. Now, don't get me wrong, there were a few incidents when I was younger, that I remember where I actually did stand up for myself and not let that person continue to disrespect me. 

And if you know me well, and remember some incidents in my younger years, or even more recent, I do not tolerate someone mistreating anyone else I know, and not saying something about it to you. I am not a violent angry person and I try my best to be very professional when it comes to having to confront someone about something they did to a person that I care about and I do not like confrontation with anyone when it deals with undesirable cases but you can bet your last dime, that I will take up for those I care for. I will have their back. This has just been something that I have noticed in my life that I can't be quiet about and just let go unnoticed. I am glad that the older in life that I get, the more professional and understanding that I try to be though compared to my younger years, when I wasn't so nice in responses that I may have given to these people.  I'm still a work in progress! 

So, with all the court dates and what is taking place with my daughter and her ex fiance, I am learning a lot about the court and law. The main thing that I can say that I have learned the most about is, that the law doesn't always seem to be fair sometimes or maybe most of the time. I realize that judges see all kinds of cases, and sees the same old rhyme and song over and over again. But, it does seem a little unfair to not take each case serious. Especially when it comes to an assault. What I have learned so far about that is, that you can assault someone and then accuse that person of assaulting you and go as far as pressing charges against them and may I add, false charges at that. But the judge will tell you that you could both possibly face jail time. 

So, just remember if you try to get justice for someone assaulting you and then they accuse you of it instead and go as far as saying that they did not lay a hand on you, then you may stand a chance at going to jail as well. Now, I am smart enough to know that the judge could just be using that as a scare tactic to hope that maybe the guilty party drops charges? Or maybe he likes to be intimidating or maybe he is just a moron and could care less? I don't know, because like I said in the beginning of this blog, this is our first rodeo with a situation like this. 

I am thankful however that the judge saw fit to extend the protective order so that my daughter hopefully at least won't continue to be harassed by her ex, which that was another incident that they were in court about as well. And guess what, he was only charged a fine for harassing her. So, tell me how the court gets a cut of money from this incident and my daughter got nothing. Like I said, I'm learning that the law and court system does not help at all in what they consider just misdemeanor incidents . 

So now we await the next trial date, next month along with a lawyer, and a subpoenaed witness. So we will see how well that goes. Now I know why the Wild Wild West just took matters into their own hands back in the day! lol!  

I would like to also add a disclaimer: 

I do not hate my daughters ex for anything that he has done against her so far. We tried to help him, encourage him and push him to want to be the person that we knew he was possible of becoming, but to no avail, it didn't work. We provided a place for him and all of his needs for a great amount of time. Along with his own family, he only thanked us for all of that by disrespecting us and continuing to do so. So like I said, I do not hate him but I will not tolerate him to continue to disrupt our lives and manipulate any of us ever again.